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| Summary: Should gay couples be given the same legal rights as heterosexuals in adopting children? |
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Author:Eliot Jones ( Tunisia )
Eliot Jones is a freelance communications consultant. |
Created: Friday, October 27, 2000
Last Modified: Monday, May 18, 2009
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At present, the world and individual countries are as divided with regard to adoption as to other area of gay rights. As of 2000, four states in the USA (Arkansas, Florida, Mississippi and Utah) have specifically outlawed gay adoption, as have some Scandinavian countries (Denmark, Norway, and Iceland) that show an otherwise lenient attitude to same-sex relationships. By contrast, the National Adoption Week in the UK in October 2000 saw a drive to encourage gay couples to adopt, in order to find homes for the thousands of children seeking parents. The 2002 Adoption and Children Act allowed unmarried couples in England and Wales, including same sex partners to apply for adoption jointly.
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| Society is changing, and the traditional idea of the nuclear family with married mother and father is no longer the only acceptable alternative. The reason that many countries are beginning to award legal rights to gay couples is because the stability of such relationships is now recognised. There is no reason, therefore, why such couples cannot provide a stable and loving upbringing for children. |
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The traditional nuclear family is still an ideal that should be clung to. Where its breakdown is inevitable, a close substitute, with maternal and paternal influences, is the only alternative. Evolution and nature has shown that the natural development of the young is aided by both these influences. Research in the US (Univ. of Illinois Law Review, 1997) finds that children raised in homosexual househoulds are significantly more likely to be gay themselves. |
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| Nature has shown in many species that, when one or both parents die, an uncle or aunt frequently takes on the child-rearing role. |
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While exceptions occur, the norm in nature is that offspring are nurtured by mother and father. To legally allow adoption by gay couples is to encourage what is an unnatural upbringing. |
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| Some babies are born with a predisposition to homosexuality (both human and in other races), and their upbringing will not be affect their sexuality. Attempting to suppress this genetic predisposition has resulted in great misery for many people. Rather, we should accept this and look to embrace all gay people fully – which must include celebrating gay role models, especially as responsible parents. |
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A child’s primary role models are his or her parents. Bringing a heterosexual child up in a gay household gives them a distorted view of a minority sexuality, just as a girl brought up by two men would fail to benefit from a feminine influence. |
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| In many cases, children are currently being responsibly reared by gay couples, where one of the partners is a biological parent. Allowing adoption by the other merely confers legal rights on an already successful, if informal, family model. |
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While the law should not penalise gay relationships, it also exists to encourage the nuclear family as the ideal for child-raising. Just as married couples receive tax benefits and unmarried mothers may suffer cuts in welfare, legal prohibition of adoption by gays is a natural step towards this ideal. |
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| The homophobia in some sections of society is wrong, and must be fought however possible. Couples from ethnic minorities are not barred from adoption even in racist areas. Only through the full inclusion of gays in society and all its institutions can we hope to overcome prejudice. |
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Homophobic language and behaviour is still common in society. Placing a child too young to have an opinion of their own in the care of a gay couple exposes them to this prejudice, and subjects them to ridicule or violence. Whatever ideal we might have, the psychological and physical welfare of the child must come first. |
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| | This House would allow gay couples to adopt children
This House would explode the nuclear family
That homosexuality should be no bar to adoption
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velvet_whisper
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Posted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 03:14 pm |
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People have said to me in the past that a child should have a mother and a father figure, and although this can be classed as a good point, think about it further than that. I know many people who have seperated parents and have been raised by just one of their parents from an early age, only seeing their other parent at weekends or a day each week. So in this case they do have the main influence of just one parent, so how is gay adoption wrong if this can be true with single parenthood?
There are disfuctional couples who are agressive, they drink excessivley and aren't particularly responsible who have children, and of course they are aloud to have children all they want. Nobody stops them, and then when they do, the child is mistreated and eventually sent into care. Is this an ideal childhood? Yet a loving gay couple can't adopt a child no matter how hard they try to get the rights to adopt. So, an agressive, disfucional straight couple, or a loving same sex couple. Which is more likely to be aloud to have children? I prove my point. And that is wrong, bringing a child into that kind of family. I've heard people say that it can reflect on the childs sexuality. This is an absuloute lie. It's a natural choice on which sex you are attracted to, you can't change this no matter who you are brought up with. And as for the fact that the child would get bullied and mocked for this - well that just shows how homophobic society really is. There are people at my school who still use the term 'gay' in a derogatory sense. Of course, there are valid pointss against it like there is for all arguements, but as far as I can see, there is no problem with same sex couples adopting children.
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jasonolais
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Posted: Sun Nov 8, 2009 04:10 am |
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Gay people should be given the right to adopt children. They are human, after all.
When should a couple not be given a chance to adopt children? When they don't deserve the children they want to have. Some couples are abusive. They force their children to do manual labor and the become tiresome zombies. They don't deserve children.
Some couples are infertile, and they can't bear children. They are dying to have loving children who would love them in return. Gay couples are like that. Bear in mind that they can't bear children. Their only way to have children-legally- is to adopt.
Bear in mind that gay people don't want to be gay, mind you. They can't change the amounts of testosterone they have in their body, mind you.
Back to my point. Who said that gay people are not caring couples? They might be weird, but that does not make them unqualified, mind you. I believe they might make better parents.
To wrap it up, gender shouldn't be a factor. It's all about [i]if they would be good parents.[/i]
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Ceeper
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Posted: Mon Nov 2, 2009 09:54 am |
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| WHERE IS THE PROOF OF YOUR LAST STATEMENT?! WHAT IS THE SCIENTIFIC BASIS OF YOUR ANALYSIS?! THERE IS NOTHING "INSTABLE" ABOUT PEOPLE WHO ARE GAY! WOW...! :X
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