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cassle
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jeeyong96
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Posted: Wed Nov 4th, 2009 12:34 am |
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"Using physical force to punish kids always leads to close mindsets because kids will learn to 'protect' themselves."
ALWAYS? ALWAYS?
using physical force does not lead to close mindsets. it opens them up to what ir right and what is wrong. They wont be learning to "protect" themselves. instead, they will learn to submit to higher authority.
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| Kids will be kids. A child doesn't and cannot possibly comprehend the difference between, the parent hitting them and them hitting others. "If Mommy hits me, then it must be ok.." don't you think that a child has to deal with enough violence in a lifetime that they don't need it from the parents too?! If a child is hit at home, do you not think that this treatment instills violence?! They will get enough from the media. There are other ways to show a child the consequences of actions. Yes time-outs and grounding does work. Want to teach a kid a lesson? You can take away their privileges. The key to raising a kid is to be candid and honest. Don't shield them from the truth just because of their age. If they are acting up, you need to let them know from the start that their actions are not ok. then you won't have to resort to corporal punishment.
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jeeyong96
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Posted: Thu Nov 5th, 2009 12:34 am |
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Ceeper wrote: Kids will be kids. A child doesn't and cannot possibly comprehend the difference between, the parent hitting them and them hitting others. "If Mommy hits me, then it must be ok.." don't you think that a child has to deal with enough violence in a lifetime that they don't need it from the parents too?! If a child is hit at home, do you not think that this treatment instills violence?! They will get enough from the media. There are other ways to show a child the consequences of actions. Yes time-outs and grounding does work. Want to teach a kid a lesson? You can take away their privileges. The key to raising a kid is to be candid and honest. Don't shield them from the truth just because of their age. If they are acting up, you need to let them know from the start that their actions are not ok. then you won't have to resort to corporal punishment.
a child cant possibly comprehend the difference between the parent hitting them and them hitting others. the child cant comprehend that? the parent will tell them that what their doing is wrong and as a punishment they are getting spanked. its not like the parents are just hitting them out of sheer pleasure.
the key to raising a kid is to be candid and honest. first of all, candid and honest mean the same thing. -___- and spanking them as a punishment is beaing honest. if they are acting up, we need to let them know by spanking them.
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jeeyong96
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jeeyong96 wrote: Ceeper wrote:
"a child cant possibly comprehend the difference between the parent hitting them and them hitting others. the child cant comprehend that? the parent will tell them that what their doing is wrong and as a punishment they are getting spanked. its not like the parents are just hitting them out of sheer pleasure."
If you teach a child to believe they will be spanked everytime they do something wrong surely they will believe this is the same for everything, so when someone does something wrong to them at school or whatever the child will believe it is ok to hit them as aa means of punishment and discapline! If you spank a child in this day and age they child will surely grow up with vicious intensions. The best way to dicapline a child is to take away the things most important to them until the understand the difference between right and wrong.
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Posted: Sat Nov 7th, 2009 11:32 am |
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| the bottom line is that it is against the law to physically hurt another adult, but a child who is defenseless and half your size you can justify hitting. In past generations they did what they though was best. Now we know better. You can raise a wonderful, respectful child who listens to authority figures without smacking. Teachers and childcare workers are no longer allowed to use corporal punishment, they have had to learn other, better ways. It's about time parents did too. Yes it takes more time and effort but does anyone really want to physically, mentally or emotionally harm thier child. I have never smacked my children and they love and respect me. They are polite, well behaved and fit well into society. They speak well to other adults, follow school rules and are respectful to all adults. Not because they fear being hit, but because they have been raised to do so, through love, ghuidance, positive reinforcement and respect.
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